After the hard work of winning the right to marry, you may have wasted no time arranging to make your love for one another official. The joy of legally marrying the person you love most can only increase with the opportunity to welcome a child into your home.
You may have explored and discussed the many options available for having children, including foster care, international adoption and surrogacy. Adoption is the way you ultimately chose to provide a child with a loving family. As you begin a process that can be fraught with disappointment and frustration, one step for which you can prepare is the home study.
An overview of the adoption process
When you start the process, you will complete an application and speak with a caseworker. While rules for each state and agency may vary, you can typically expect the agent to conduct a background check, review your financial status and verify your references. In most cases, this includes a home study, and perhaps a caseworker will visit you on more than one occasion.
The home study is nothing for you to fear. The agency simply wants to see that your home is safe and stable. They will also be looking to see how you and your spouse interact with one another in your home environment.
Make yourself at home
When the caseworker visits your home, cancel your appointments because it may take most of the day. Here are some factors of a typical home study:
- The agent will confirm that you and your spouse are both committed to the adoption.
- You will answer questions about your education, your job, your family and your finances, among other very personal inquiries.
- Your house does not have to be a showplace, only clean and tidy with a warm, welcoming feel.
- The caseworker will want to see where the child will sleep and how adequate the house is for raising a child.
- You will have a chance to ask your own questions and raise any concerns you have about adopting a child or the legal process.
It should be that simple, but it can be intimidating fighting for rights that others take for granted. Fortunately, you live in New York, one of the best places in the country for gay rights. You also have access to attorneys who are passionate about supporting adoption rights for LGBT couples and will assist you every step of the way.